Dear birth mother

Hello! We are Scott and Ben from San Francisco.

We are so grateful to you for taking time to learn about us and our dream of becoming Dads. We deeply respect you for taking this brave step toward ensuring your child has the absolute best possible future. We chose open adoption because we always want our child to know where they came from and to honor
your strength.

We promise to provide your child unconditional love, lots of belly laughs, opportunities to see the world, and constant support. We pledge to share our love of the outdoors, sports, music, cooking (and eating) and Hawaii while providing a warm, safe, and loving home. Together with our encouraging family and friends, we are eager to become parents and are honored you are considering us as part of your life journey.

We cannot wait to be dads! 

the start of our adventure

We met in 2016 at a work fundraiser.

Sparks flew, and a few weeks later we found ourselves on a 7-day, 545 mile charity bike ride from San Francisco to Los Angeles.

During this adventure we grew closer through the teamwork and dedication that is needed in testing your physical abilities (not to mention camping on rocky ground). We discovered we like to be challenged and stretch our limits - body, mind and souls - together. We learned about the importance of family in each other’s lives and our shared dream of becoming ‘Dads’. As we crossed the finish line, we realized this was not the end, but just the beginning of a beautiful life together. 

We are very active and whether we are running with our dog, Parker, attending a sporting event/concert, or planning a weekend travel adventure, we have built a strong relationship through the amazing experiences we have shared. We also love spending time in our new home, relaxing in the yard with friends, or watching one of Ben’s beloved sports teams strive toward victory.

“We have achieved many of our goals, including a dream wedding in Kauai last September, and the one that remains is to have a child of our own.”

A day in the life

Always on the move

Growing up in active and athletic families, we love to be outdoors, and whether we are hiking along the Pacific Ocean, taking our dog Parker on one of our favorite runs, or landscaping our back yard, we enjoy physical activity together.

We also take advantage of every opportunity to experience the Bay Area (and beyond) with our family of friends, be it a ski trip to the mountains or enjoying a drive to the coast for fresh seafood, there are so many fun adventures close by.  

We have a shared love of travel and from early on in our relationship, made it a priority to see the world together. We can’t wait to share this passion with our child, and believe it is important to learn about other cultures and have experiences that broaden your perspective. One of our favorite recent trips was to Italy where we travelled through Tuscany with friends and took cooking classes to improve our skills in the kitchen.   

loves makes a house a home

Just north of San Francisco, is an idyllic town we now call home

We recently sold our house in San Francisco and purchased our dream home 18 miles north of the city in an adorable town called Ross.

Though we loved living in the city, we always knew we wanted to raise our child in a neighborhood with tree-lined streets, lots of families, and access to a range of outdoor activities.

While we don’t live close to our families, a top priority in our relationship is to see them frequently throughout the year. We take our roles as ‘Uncles’ very seriously and make lots of visits to San Diego to visit and get hands-on training for parenthood (4 children under 10 years old!). We also enjoy having our parents out to visit or meeting up with them somewhere fun and have been amazed by the bond they have formed with one another since meeting. We often joke that our moms and dads are just as strong of a match as we are and are fortunate they will be able to be such active and involved grandparents. 

fun facts

You may be surprised to find out that

Scott

• Has officiated three of his best friend’s weddings

• Worked at Starbucks throughout high school where he fell in love with coffee

• Qualified for the Boston Marathon by running a 3:05 Marathon in Sacramento

• Studied abroad in Brazil during college

• Loves to fish

Ben

• Was ranked nationally as a Junior Tennis Player

• Plays Scrabble on his phone every night before bed and usually beats the computer

• Has a law degree but decided to pursue a career in biotech

• Acted in multiple TV shows and made-for-tv movies in his 20’s

• Interviewed celebrities for Entertainment Tonight

“We will give everything we have to making your child’s life happy and full of opportunity. You will have a special place in our family and our hearts and your child will always know of your love and partnership. ”

our commitment

We sincerely thank you for taking the time to learn about us.

We’d be honored to enter this journey with you!

We have dreamed of becoming Dads for a long time, and could not be more ready or committed to being the most amazing Fathers to your child. We realize you may have more questions for us and are open to you contacting us to learn more. We would also love to hear from you about the dreams you have for your baby.

Our Adoption Attorney, Elizabeth Schwartz